Top Tips to Boost Confidence
We all need a bit of a confidence boost sometimes. While we feel like there's nothing we can do to change that, there are a few little "life hacks" that can give you a quick confidence boost or to help build it up over time.
Stand up tall
Research has shown that the way you sit or stand can noticeably affect the levels of testosterone and cortisol in your body; higher levels of testosterone can increase confidence while lower levels of cortisol can reduce anxiety. Both of these changes happen if you stand in a power pose - a position that is open and relaxed. I'm not saying walk around with your hands on your hips and your chin to the sky, but if you feel yourself slouching or closing up, try and sit straighter, open up your body language a bit more and walk with confidence. Fake it until you make it. You'll begin to notice the actual chemical difference this will have on your mood.
Learn to embrace compliments
If we instantly dismiss compliments, we aren't even taking the time to acknowledge that they could be true - our confidence isn't allowing us to believe that someone else might think positively of us. If you accept the compliment - just saying thank you instead of saying "no I look awful" or "but I'm having such a bad hair day" - you're acknowledging the idea that there is something good about you that was worth complimenting. It means that instead of feeling self-conscious, you'll begin to feel way more confident about yourself.
Set realistic goals
It's happened to all of us. We've had a huge mountain of tasks to do, tasks that we know we won't be able to get done by the end of the day, so we leave work or finish the day feeling disappointed that we didn't finish our to-do list. It wasn't realistic; we set the bar too high... but we're disappointed anyway.
If we set ourselves realistic goals that have been time-managed and listed in order of priority and importance, we're more likely to leave feeling accomplished as opposed to defeated. Think of the huge confidence boost this will give you.
Celebrate your achievements
And when you do actually complete your goals, allow yourself a moment of pride in your achievements. Have a glass of wine. Tweet about how great you are. Yes, there might be more to do tomorrow, but give yourself a pat on the back for what you completed today. Focus on the positives, so that when you approach your next task, your mood will be better and you'll feel more confident about getting things done.
Do things that are a little scary
I'm not talking about throwing yourself our of a plane to overcome your fear of heights (although you totally can if you want to), but push your comfort zone out a little bit every day so you become acclimatised to new situations. If you get nervous when talking on the phone, try ordering your pizza by phone instead of online. It's a small step, but after a while you'll realise it's not all that difficult and it'll come easier when you have to actually have an important phone call.
Everyone feels powerful when they put their headphones in, blast a really upbeat, powerful track and just power-walk down the high street as if they were on a catwalk. It makes you feel unstoppable. But that can totally be used for more than just pretending you're at Paris Fashion Week. Just before a big presentation, or an interview, or an exam - some place that you need that extra motivation - shove your earphones in and blast whatever song makes you feel like a superstar. That confidence "high" will carry across when you're presenting.
What tips do you have for making yourself feel more confident? Have you tried any of the above? Let me know in the comments below so we can help share and spread the confidence and happiness.