Body Confidence Tips for Women, from a Straight Man.

The following is a guest post by Coach Dan Reeve, a personal trainer and body coach.


What do you say to yourself when you look in the mirror? What does your internal monologue say about your thighs, belly or arms when no one else can hear? Do you ever use the words disgusting, ugly, fat?

I (Coach Dan Reeve) have just got back from a seminar in Southampton with @ypsi_stuttgart founder Wolfgang Unsoeld. One of the take away messages for me was trick 16:

“The most important talk in your life is the one with yourself.”

For a lot of women, negative self talk starts in their teens and early 20’s. These same women, once in their 30’s and 40’s will look back at pictures of themselves and say ‘I wish I had the figure I had when I was younger!’ But why?! You weren’t happy with your body then? So why would you be happy with that body now? Perhaps it’s not your body that’s the problem but your attitude towards it.

Ladies, it is not okay to hate or loathe your body.

Why do women see flaws when they look in the mirror?

If you have no self confidence and feel uncomfortable in your skin, hitting the gym everyday and restricting your calorific intake is not the answer.

The motivation to change, that comes from hating your body, will only take you so far. It’s not enough to make long term, healthy, lifestyle changes.

For actions such as: exercising regularly, eating nutritious food, meditating, drinking water and getting enough sleep to become habits, they need to come from a place of love and compassion for yourself.

Going to the gym shouldn’t be viewed as a way to punish yourself...

It’s a celebration of what your body can do. You do it because you know it’s good for you and you value yourself. It’s easy to get up and show up at the gym when you’re enjoying the process and not just focusing on what you weigh or what dress size you’re in.

To change our internal voice, we need to become more mindful and rewire our negative brains, into positive-thinking. Taking a break from social media and the constant barrage of filtered, perfect bodies also helps. It’s not an easy process but it’s well worth it.


Author: Dan Reeve, who can be contacted:

Instagram and FaceBook; @coachdanreeve

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